Andrew Garfield, 39, details pressure he felt to have kids before 40
Andrew Garfield has detailed the ‘societal’ pressure he felt to have children before turning 40.
The actor, 39, spoke candidly about his concerns with British GQ, confessing he struggled to accept that his life was going in a ‘different path’.
The Spiderman star – who reportedly rekindled his romance with his ex-girlfriend Alyssa Miller in March – went on to express his upset that his mother Lynn, who died from pancreatic cancer in 2019, didn’t get a chance to meet any grandchildren.
Candid: Andrew Garfield, 39, detailed the pressure he felt to have kids before 40 and the pain that his late mother would never meet his grandchildren as he poses for shirtless GQ spread
Alongside a striking covershoot that saw Andrew pose shirtless, he explained: ‘Releasing myself from the societal obligation of procreating by the time I’m 40 has been an interesting thing to do with myself… where do I start with why it didn’t happen ?
‘It’s more about accepting a different path than what was kind of expected of me from birth. Like by this time you will have done this, and you will have at least one child – that kind of thing.
‘I think I have some guilt around that. And obviously it’s easier for me as a man…’
Speaking out: The actor, 39, spoke candidly about his concerns with British GQ , confessing he struggled to accept that his life was going in a ‘different path’
Andrew’s relationship status is currently unclear.
Earlier this year the actor was said to have split from model Alyssa, 32. Yet in April the pair were said to have rekindled their romance, with Andrew taking a ‘break’ from Hollywood for around ‘a month or two’ amid claims he was planning to ‘settle down’.
He has not commented publicly on his relationship status and did not shed any further light in his interview with GQ.
On/off: L Earlier this year the actor was said to have split from model Alyssa Miller, 32. Yet in April the pair were said to have rekindled their romance
Elsewhere in the chat, he detailed his pain at knowing his late mother would not have a chance to meet his children.
He said: ‘Life seems to be a perpetual practice of letting s8t go. Letting go of an idea of how a thing should look, or be, or feel.
‘And that one’s a big one [to let go of], because of course I would’ve loved my mum to have met my kids, if I’m going to have kids. And she will. In spirit. She’ll be there for it. I know she’s there, for all the big ones.
‘But, yeah. Life, life, life. Life is in charge. We’ll see. We’ll see what happens. I’m curious.’
Andrew’s mother died shortly after his theater stint in Angels in America and before he began filming for his Oscar-nominated role in Tick, Tick… Boom!
Revealing the impact his roles had on his grievance, he explained: ‘That play, I think, really starts to just pull me apart. And then my mum gets sick. And it’s like, “Oh, right.” I was preparing for something.
‘The person that brought me into existence not being in existence anymore. I felt like it was all connected. She dies young. She dies at 69.
‘Tick, Tick…Boom! Became this kind of place where I got to continue singing her unfinished song, to keep her song alive, somehow.’
Single? Andrew has not commented publicly on his relationship status and did not shed any further light in his interview with GQ (pictured earlier this month)
Detailing the ways his father has been processing his grievance, he added: ‘My dad, right now, I think, is just meant to tend his back garden.
‘He’s lost his wife, and I think all he’s meant to do right now, for the most part – it’s going to make me cry – is play with his grandkids, and create this back garden.
‘He’s turned it into, like, a subtropical jungle. He’s got a water feature and a moat. He’s gone crazy, as grievance will make you do, but he’s gone toward beauty and nature and self-soothing.’
The December/ January issue of British GQ is available on newsstands and via digital downloads on Tuesday 29 November.
Andrew will be toasted at the 25th annual GQ Men of the Year celebration in association with BOSS, taking place on Wednesday 16 November.
Sad: Andrew’s mum Lynn died from pancreatic cancer in 2019, shortly before he began filming for his Oscar-nominated role in Tick, Tick… Boom! (pictured with Lynn and dad Richard in 2018)